Starting a relationship while under Peyronies Disease, are we imposing ourselves on her?

[moni]

Hi fellow members.

I'm 23 this year and have had Peyronie's for more than 10 years. During my early teenage years, I felt that this might not be a big issue at any point of my life, so I didn't really put much thought into it. But eventually I came to a breaking point. Soon after, I discovered this forum, and with all the helpful advices and guidances from the community, it has since helped me to rebuild my confidence and work on the path to self-acceptance. Although I'm doing well on my progress to self-recovery, I have never once disclosed this issue to anyone around me, and is still reluctant to do so.

Now, I'm interested to start a romantic relationship, but the current condition has made me hesitating, over and over again, especially on the following concerns.

1. Even if I have accepted the fact that I have Peyronies Disease, and assuming that my partner does not mind about it, but by going along and starting this relationship, aren't I imposing myself on her, to accept and deal with my physical limitation?
2. My partner is a joyful and bright woman. I do not want to sadden her with this disappointing fact.
3. Wouldn't it be better for her, to have another who is capable of providing the required emotional support, as well as satisfactory intercourse experience? (as pointed out in some other's post)

[james1947]

moni

It is impossible to relate to your post without knowing your symptoms
The only thing you are stating is that you have Peyronies for more than 10 years.
Please give us some details, will be happy to tell you my opinion

James

[LWillisjr]

I agree with James, it really depends on your symptoms and severity of Peyronies. It is possible to have a mild case and still be able to perform with physical lovemaking.

Feel free to PM me with any questions if you are more comfortable that way.

[moni]

Hi,

I was being very vague in my first post =[
I have a 60 degrees curve to the left near the base of the penis shaft. Erection is not painful, nor it does in it's flaccid state.
As for the cause of my Peyronies Disease, I'm not really sure about it, but it was most probably due to the forceful bending of my penis to the left when I was still very young, since erection caused the penis glans to rub against my pants, which was very uncomfortable at that time...and yes, this is a very silly cause.

[QuackAttack]

OK Moni,

With respect to the girl you are interested in. Wouldn't she have to accept the fact that you be 5'7" or 6'6" for that matter or you have blond or brown hair, blue, green, brown hazel eyes? What if you had asthma she would have to deal with that too. So, if it is a problem for her, then she isn't the person you want to be around.

The first thing you need to do is go to a competent Urologist that specializes in Peyronies. There is a list on the forum of doctors. However, if you are in a large metropolitan area, you should have several choices. If you see a doctor and they take a wait and see approach, move on and get another doctor. Your doctor needs to assess if the plaque has calcified or not. If you have has Peyronies for a long time, it is likely that it may have calcified. Did you ever have pain during an erection and now you don't?

There are options out there. Penile Traction Devices, Vacuum Erection Devices (VED) are mechanical approaches. Pentox is a drug option (I am on it right now and I will tell you I am usually against pharmaceutical approaches), l-arginine and acetyl l carnitine are supplements that go along with Pentox and traction.

Look up a doctor named Lawrence Levine in Chicago. Dr. Levine is the man in Peyronies treatment and he advocates combination therapy. PRP, Verapamil and Xiaflex are injection options.

Be honest with this girl, you don't have to say anything right off the bat and if you are looking to bang somebody on the first or second date, you need to think about how long term that will be because those kind of relationships fizzle fast. After the second or third date you can explain this to her. You may find out that you aren't interested in dating this person after the first or second date.

Good Luck,
John