18 months ago I was a normal sexually functioning man. I could get rock hard on the spot and have sex 3-4 times a day if I wanted to.
I felt a tear with my girl on top in April of 2021. Ultrasound confirmed I had scarring mid-shaft a few weeks later. What I should have done immediately is:
1. stopped jerking off
2. limited sex to once every 2 weeks and limited that to slow and careful, no girl on top
3. accepted the doctors word that I would be fine and that the pain would go away within 12 months
Maybe the pain would not have gone away in 12 months and maybe it would have gotten worse, but at the time those words were said to me I was getting hard, aroused by visuals and cialis worked very well (even though I did not really need them at the time.)
But what I did is, I OBSESSED over this. I came on here multiple times a day looking for a quick fix. I also kept jerking off and having sex frequently. I had a high libido so this was challenging, but still I could have been stronger and resisted.
But I kept thinking supplements would help and I also wanted to keep getting erections but once I did I usually kept going until I blew a load instead of just gently getting aroused for blood flow.
Again, though my obsession kept me thinking about my dick all day everyday and wanting things to be back to normal immediately. I definitely made things worse by jerking off and overdoing it with sex.
The thing that ultimately ruined me as many of you know was trying something not FDA or doctor approved and explicitly described as not meant for the penis. I tried Hirudoid cream based on the words and videos of people here. This ruined my erections immediately and 15 months later my erections are horrible.
So my whole point is this. Anyone who has this condition and is new:
- Do not try anything suggested by an anonymous poster before consulting a doctor and getting their approval
- More importantly, get off the internet and try to focus your mind elsewhere
- Stop jerking off
- Limit yourself to sex no more than 2x a month
- Only do slow, gentle missionary if you do have sex
- Know that the pain issue is a long journey an you need to accept that
- Believe that there is a very strong chance YOU WILL NOT GET
Erectile Dysfunction if you do all of the above
- Get a sex therapist to help you manage this mental challenge
I gave myself
Erectile Dysfunction. There is no doubt about that.
I had Peyronies Disease and the curve wasn't all that bad. IT WAS MY INABILITY TO HANDLE THIS MENTALLY that got me where I am today. I got rock hard with cialis before I tried that stupid cream. Things were going to be ok. I just had to stay the course. I should have been smarter and stronger. But I panicked and wanted a quick fix.
So, anyone new, please heed my advice. Breathe, take care of yourself and do anything you can to avoid obsessing over this.
There is no quick fix, fellas. You have to deal with the pain.