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Author Topic: How do people tone down there sex lives? I have and its literally killing me  (Read 942 times)

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I’m Someone who needs to cum at least 5-6 times a week. I have been trying to do 1 time per week and have been successful at doing that. But sorry for the info my dick literally is leaking cum because I need more sex. The reason I don’t have more or don’t masturbate more is it’s painful and it seems to worsen my condition every time I cum. What do I do?! This is really eating away at me
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26 y/o
sex injury that gradually got worse
Hard flaccid, Indentation bottom left close to my body,  mild twist left
28° up 28° Left
official diagnosed peyronies w/pain
Pentox, restorex, l-arginine, cq10, NSAID, tramadol(as needed)
Gf is supportive

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Well if masturbating and or cumming is out of the question - you could----> Exercise, take a cold shower,
not watch anything that promotes a sexual thought, not listen to anything that promotes a sexual thought,find a hobby you like, painting, working on projects around the house. I used to want sex about 2 to 3 times a day - no kidding. when I got married 33 years ago that tapered down to 1 time a day. When peyronies came along it is about 1 time a week. Stopping sex in your life is not very easy for some of us men. You have to guage for yourself what is hurting you more.
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Damn that’s not good considering sex is literally everywhere especially in tv, art, culture, and music


This is BS I’m so mad and I don’t like getting out of bed. Someone better fix this soon (unlikely)

Maybe Portland will put me down in a few years lol.  What’s the point:(
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26 y/o
sex injury that gradually got worse
Hard flaccid, Indentation bottom left close to my body,  mild twist left
28° up 28° Left
official diagnosed peyronies w/pain
Pentox, restorex, l-arginine, cq10, NSAID, tramadol(as needed)
Gf is supportive

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i feel you. it is so incredibly hard for someone our age not to think about sex.
i found that having a decent social life gives me a sort of "fulfillment" and makes me feel less alone, this allows me to be less dependent from masturbation.
in general i would say find activities that give you purpose. not just something you may enjoy at the moment but something that has some depth, like indeed sport, good friendships, studying or working on something you like.
otherwise you could do the same thing you do (think sexual thought/watch porn or idk) but without touching you penis. That's probably easier since avoiding sex alltogether seems rly hard
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I'm single and almost hadn't sex throughout the last 12 months. I'm starting to think living a sexless life isn't so bad. Masturbation is enough to alleviate my ball's tension, lol.
 
I'm sorry, this is not what you want to hear. Everyone is different. But I struggled a lot with this condition and now I think I got more expertise... I'm meditating much more nowadays, and this is making me happier.

I don't think I have words that can give you instant relief, but I'd advise you to try to gain more awareness of the good and little things in life.
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Mar/21 TEP + Titan Touch 20 cm + 1.5 RTE.

Surgery done by Dr. Marco Tulio Cavalcanti, in São Paulo.

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We are what we think, not the thoughts that pop in our heads but the thoughts we entertain and dwell on and ruminate.

Most men, even at my age literally have multiple sexual thoughts per minute. If we immerse ourselves in other things we can prevent dwelling on them.  Many people are successful for many reasons whether it is paralysis (which does not stop desire), or other medical or religious reasons.

Property understood meditation is so key to many issues and this is just one more of them.  https://insighttimer.com/meditation-courses/course_learn-how-to-meditate-in-seven-days

I am not blowing this off or giving you some useless response.  You do not know the power of that which you won't try.
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I’m not knocking it but I’m trying very hard and I physically can’t my dick oozes cum when I pee and my balls hurt cuz I have pent up jizz.
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sex injury that gradually got worse
Hard flaccid, Indentation bottom left close to my body,  mild twist left
28° up 28° Left
official diagnosed peyronies w/pain
Pentox, restorex, l-arginine, cq10, NSAID, tramadol(as needed)
Gf is supportive

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Leakage goes away after some time for most people, including me.

Stay away from porn, images, don't touch your penis, and meditate when you are having sexual thoughts.

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To be clear, it is  NOT  "LITERALLY" killing you.  It is FIGURATIVELY killing you.

Not ejaculating never killed anyone.  If your body has to release you will have a wet dream.  Your penis does not have a mind of its own.  It responds to physical and mental stimulation.
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That sounds like a terrible way to live. I’m not trying to be negative, but I’m just supposed to fight off sexual urges for another 50 years-60 years? It’s literally instinct you can’t just fight off boners all the time when you sleep you get boners too. when I have a wet dreams it literally hurts too and it makes a mess and is very embarrassing. I woke up in a puddle of jizz on my girlfriends bed (not from us having sex) and to me that was so sad. I can have a gf but that doesn’t mean sex will return or ever be normal. I just want some normalcy back in my life it’s really getting to me. I asked my doctor for therapist suggestions and she said make an appointment. Her office only has openings like months later I’m getting very discouraged as things only seem to get worse
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26 y/o
sex injury that gradually got worse
Hard flaccid, Indentation bottom left close to my body,  mild twist left
28° up 28° Left
official diagnosed peyronies w/pain
Pentox, restorex, l-arginine, cq10, NSAID, tramadol(as needed)
Gf is supportive

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Nobody is telling you not to have sex. Generally sex is less harmful than masturbation, at least for me. And no, that’s not a bad way to live. Cutting down on masturbation made me enjoy it and sex much more.

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Personally I unfortunately have a different view point and I’m working on changing them. But I just don’t see being happy like this. I miss my old life so badly it’s affecting my performance in school and social life. I already had bad depression and anxiety. I’m  a recovering drug addict and this is making things so much harder. I was finally getting over my other health problems (I have joint pain and swelling, Ibs, epilepsy, and psoriasis) none of my conditions kill me but it just makes things more challenging.

I know they are mildish conditions even including peyornies, but they are all chronic and many people don’t recognize them including docs,

one thing I loved was my sex life and  it’s just sad seeing it go this way so young on top of everything else that I’ve gone through. I feel like every time I get to a better point in life something bad happens to me. I’m just tired from it and overwhelmed. This was another devastating blow
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26 y/o
sex injury that gradually got worse
Hard flaccid, Indentation bottom left close to my body,  mild twist left
28° up 28° Left
official diagnosed peyronies w/pain
Pentox, restorex, l-arginine, cq10, NSAID, tramadol(as needed)
Gf is supportive

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Epilepsy could I suppose but i have only had a handful of seizures
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26 y/o
sex injury that gradually got worse
Hard flaccid, Indentation bottom left close to my body,  mild twist left
28° up 28° Left
official diagnosed peyronies w/pain
Pentox, restorex, l-arginine, cq10, NSAID, tramadol(as needed)
Gf is supportive

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Life is not conspiring against you. 

Happiness does not require daily masturbation.

No one said this has to be for the next 50 years.  It has to be for the acute period when it does damage.

Also, you don't have to abstain. It is just one of life's thousands of choices that you are totally free to make. If short-term gratification is more important than your long-term sex life, then masturbate ten times a week.  You can probably reduce the permanent damage with a lot of lube and be as gentle as possible.  You could even try a vibrator of some sort.  Just realize that you assume the risk and live with the outcome.
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I have drastically cut down and only cum about once every one to two weeks using the shower nozzle to spray my glans gently. And even this is too much and hurts after cumming. I don’t think it’s going to get better. I read all the time about reinjury and have even reinjured once after very lubricated gentle masturbation. I have been to afraid to try sex with my gf cuz it doesn’t feel stable enough.

Idk what you’re talking about this is hell.
Either way the result is no sex and pain

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26 y/o
sex injury that gradually got worse
Hard flaccid, Indentation bottom left close to my body,  mild twist left
28° up 28° Left
official diagnosed peyronies w/pain
Pentox, restorex, l-arginine, cq10, NSAID, tramadol(as needed)
Gf is supportive

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I guess the point I’m trying to make is I miss my old life sorry for being a d-bag about it
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26 y/o
sex injury that gradually got worse
Hard flaccid, Indentation bottom left close to my body,  mild twist left
28° up 28° Left
official diagnosed peyronies w/pain
Pentox, restorex, l-arginine, cq10, NSAID, tramadol(as needed)
Gf is supportive

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It's ok to miss it.  But it only cheats you more if you focus on it and dwell on it.  IT IS A CHOICE.
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 Curve killer I highly suggest you continue to have sex with your girlfriend till you figure out a permanent solution. You are fortunate to have an understanding one. Sex shouldn’t just be about penetrative sex, even if you want piv, use a toy instead. But you got to be confident enough and rock it with your girlfriend through other ways/toys no matter what.
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So you say it hurts every time after cumming. Have you ever tried using a rice sock warmed up applied to your penis after sex. I used this in the beginning stages of peyronies and it did bring great relief after any sexual activity.  I was very much like you in the pain department -  and for me things are getting better now with sex. I still am very careful though. Our penises are not a jackhammer.
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Vit E400mg, COQ10, ALCAR, Heat Therapy, Penimaster, Pentox, Cialis, Restorex
had SNHL 7-31-20 - Stopped all Meds because ototoxicity  Heat/traction/VED are working.

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Thanks guys for the ideas and support. I’ve heard many people talk about the rice sock I’m assuming you just put rice in a sock and heat it up? I have been using hand warmers for heat but it is not the most efficient thing
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sex injury that gradually got worse
Hard flaccid, Indentation bottom left close to my body,  mild twist left
28° up 28° Left
official diagnosed peyronies w/pain
Pentox, restorex, l-arginine, cq10, NSAID, tramadol(as needed)
Gf is supportive

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Just buy a bag a regular white rice and pour it into a long tube sock. Tie the end and then reheat it in your microwave until it is warm not hot. It will smell like rice cooking in your kitchen. It will last about 30 minutes and you can reheat it over and over again. :)
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Dorsal Curve 11-1-20 , Peyronies
Vit E400mg, COQ10, ALCAR, Heat Therapy, Penimaster, Pentox, Cialis, Restorex
had SNHL 7-31-20 - Stopped all Meds because ototoxicity  Heat/traction/VED are working.

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Word thanks for the suggestion
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26 y/o
sex injury that gradually got worse
Hard flaccid, Indentation bottom left close to my body,  mild twist left
28° up 28° Left
official diagnosed peyronies w/pain
Pentox, restorex, l-arginine, cq10, NSAID, tramadol(as needed)
Gf is supportive
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