I've never told anyone my entire life about this problem...
But today, I can't keep it secret anymore. Actually, I need someone to listen for the first time... ever
Quick background: I was born with a tight frenulum which was causing my penis to curve to the left when you pull down the skin. At the age of 15, I went to surgery to fix it because it was really tight and I was hoping that my curvature will disappear as well (what a mistake).
As you can expect - it didn't. As the time went on my penis got bigger as well as the curvature more noticeable. The real problem actually was the right side of the penis which was longer than the left side of the penis and there's no cure for that condition except the 'penile curvature surgery'.
Having a curved penis was a huge problem for me. I rejected every girl after a few weeks/months just to protect myself from not being hurt by her possible reaction on my bent penis. I had sex only once a year and a half ago and it took less than a minute which created me another fear.
I kept on waiting for a miracle to happen but there was only one thing that happened a couple weeks ago. Under the left side of the penis, my skin became hard and there is a huge plaque under the skin. There's no pain, but the curvature became even more noticeable even if I don't pull down the skin.
I immediately started taking ALCAR + Gotu Kola + Zink + Omega 3 + Magnesium + Castor Oil (applied topically to the penis) and was hoping that the plaque will soften.
Since the skin became hardened, my erection became weaker and it made me depressed.
The worst thing happened the last week when I met her absolute beautiful girl my ages. Today, she invited me to her place and I didn't go because
a) I'm still ashamed of my curved penis (30-45-60 degrees, depends on how much skin I pull down)
b) I had sex only once and ejaculated within a minute
c) My erections became weaker
This was the worst day ever. I wish I could tell her the truth, but I can't.. It makes feel soo vulnerable and poor.
As men we shouldn't feel like that, should we? :-\
I'm usually a confident and average looking guy, but I'm constantly doing some weird things just to drive girls away since I want to avoid being intimate and protect myself.
I don't know what to do but I decided to go all in and fix this f***ing problem because this is reflecting all areas of my life. I'm getting more and more angry and ruining relationships with people around me. Nobody understands what's going on because I never told to anyone.
PLEASE, can you suggest me a few next steps? Diet, supplements, drugs and most importantly how to deal with it emotionally and have a normal relationship with a girl. (maybe some books about sex and sexuality if that helps)
I decided to turn this whole situation into one of the biggest things that affected my personal growth rather than something that will continue to destroy my life.
Thank you very much!!!
You're in the U.S. The National Suicide Prevention Lifeline 1-800-273-TALK
is where you should call if you have a repeat of this day.
Actually, I'm from middle Europe. Will try to change my account settings.
Welcome Wertz, congrats on looking at this as something you can address rather than giving up all hope. How is it that you're curve varies from 30 to 60? Does it get worse the harder you are? Has it changed are always been present?
Thank you Tsanchez12369!
It has been always like that. It is hard to explain but let's say that natural curvature is around 30 degrees and then when I pull the skin to the maximum the frenulum pulls the left side of the penis and the curvature goes to 60 because the right side of the penis is longer. I'm not sure if this explanation helps.
I visited a doctor about a year ago because of that. He told me that my right side of the penis is longer than the left side + frenulum is also a bit unusual but it shouldn't be a problem when it comes to the intercourse.
I'm not worried about the penile curvature anymore. I just want to soften the plaque that developed on the left side and get back my elasticity.
The penile curvature wasn't a physic problem itself, because sometimes when it is fully erected the curvature was even less than 30 degrees (I guess I also have a blood flow problem because I have full erections very rare). The problem with having a penile curvature was more in my head.
Most of the time we are not grateful enough for what we already have. :) Please do not make some mistakes as I did!
What surgery did you get when you were 15? A frenuloplasty? If you did then your frenulum shouldn't be pull down your penis anymore. I'm not sure what mistake you are talking about.
Yes, frenuloplasty. It didn't fix that problem completely since my frenulum is unusual. It is not on the middle, but something between the middle and left. I can take some pics if that that would help. Just need to read the forum rules. Two different doctors told me that they did a solid job with frenulum and I got the best out of that surgery.
But again - the frenulum and penile curvature are not problems right. I can deal with it and accept it. My goal is to soften the plaque and improve my blood flow and have stronger erections. Quitting masturbation for the next few months is going to be my first move.
My opinion is if I could just soften the plaque a bit and improve blood flow, everything would be fine. The curvature in an erected penis would be around 30 degrees maybe even less.
So how can we destroy / soften that s*** ? :D
Anyone had any results with pentox, cq10, l-arginine, alcar, meditation, workout, lifting? What worked for you guys?
You seem to be at a better place today. Since you're in Europe, I'll offer this help for you and future European readers:
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If you know of better resources, please share.
dude... no need to kill yourself over this. We are here to help, and everytime you have negative thoughts, come to this board! i and many others here, relate and understand. I fractured my penis in 2014.... I was 27. I am 31 now... still young.. and i know what it is to have several partners. and the next day be with a broken penis in your hands.
You need to go to a proper doctor, to do medical exams. Get a proper diagnosis on your condition. You should save money, and go to Franklin Kuehas, or another respectable doctor that can and wants to help you out. thing is, if you do a colour doppler ultrasound, you know exactly how your blood flow is, and how much plaque you have and what to expect next.
Stay strong and talk to us!
For the plaque coq10 and pentox can increase blood flow, daily cialis or viagra can soften as can traction/ved and xiaflex.
I would be happy to talk with you about women and this disease at any time, I'll send you a PM.
Thank you guys for all the support! I think that emotional side of this disease/condition is much more important than it is discussed. There are thousands of men around the world who suffer in the silence all alone and we as a society should do whatever we can to change it. Sometimes all we need is just someone to hear us and give us that small support so we can make the first step forward. You did it for me, I will do it for others. Thank you!
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I'm sorry to hear that and hope that your condition is better now! How does your sexual life and life in general look like today, 4 years later?
Would like to hear more about dr. Franklin Kuehas and your experience with him. I saw his name being mentioned many times on this forum. He must be the best in Europe. Also, when you say "save money" - what amount of money do we talk about? Just some rough numbers. Thanks!
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