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Title: My life
Post by: MRFOOTBALL101 on November 16, 2023, 01:43:28 PM
After getting Peyronies years ago and self medicating using weights that caused a penile fracture.I eventually got it fixed and then a penile rigid implamt.My wife and I admit have never had sex since and it hurts when you love some one.She picks with me with names like Patch D@ck and Robotic D@ck.She always puts my think out of rigid mode and into erect then we don't do anything.Its been years and I admit I'm drinking heavily and don't understand why this is happening to me.Sorry to rant I thought getting the implant would help but she says it's not "Natural" and I don't know what to do guys
Title: Re: My life
Post by: Mikel7 on November 17, 2023, 06:04:14 AM
Hawk would probably be the one to answer this question as he is very knowledgeable regarding implants and types. What kind of implant did you get, make ,model etc...? Are you in a state of mind to take some action and probably see a new implant DR? Have you heard of Dr Eid from New York? I am sorry you are going through this very rough time in your life right now. I have had my time in life numbing my emotions from a bottle so I can speak from experience. The only problem is you wake up the next day and nothing has changed except a bad headache. It sounds like things are ready to change for you for the better! Get a new plan and new Dr.  :)
Title: Re: My life
Post by: MRFOOTBALL101 on November 21, 2023, 02:36:39 PM
Quote from: Mikel7 on November 17, 2023, 06:04:14 AMHawk would probably be the one to answer this question as he is very knowledgeable regarding implants and types. What kind of implant did you get, make ,model etc...? Are you in a state of mind to take some action and probably see a new implant DR? Have you heard of Dr Eid from New York? I am sorry you are going through this very rough time in your life right now. I have had my time in life numbing my emotions from a bottle so I can speak from experience. The only problem is you wake up the next day and nothing has changed except a bad headache. It sounds like things are ready to change for you for the better! Get a new plan and new Dr.  :)
I don't understand why she doesn't want to.be with me anymore
Title: Re: My life
Post by: bensimon on November 27, 2023, 10:51:19 AM
What kind of person picks on their husband and says these awful things when they're going through such a difficult situation?
She seems awful. I would not want to be near someone like that.
I'm so sorry for what you're going through. If I were you, I would look for a therapist I could confide on and plan an exit of this toxic household. I think your drinking is probably in great part because you're living in that environment. Air to breathe would do you well.
Title: Re: My life
Post by: Hawk on December 08, 2023, 07:27:53 AM
Whether it is someone who mocked a spouse over breast removal, penis issues, a deformity, disability, or any other issue beyond their control, that person is NOT fit to live with unless they are ready to change and work hard at changing. That starts with:
1. Recognizing that they conducted themselves in an inexcusable manner
2. They feel genuine, personal sorrow for their conduct
3. They apologize
4. They dramatically change

Otherwise, I agree with Bensimon. If I had the world's most perfect penis, I would not stick in an evil person who would demean someone they are supposed to love. Your penis is NOT the problem with this relationship. Your penis only revealed the problem. You say you don't understand why she does not want to be with you anymore. The answer is that we can't understand everyone. I don't understand Hitler, Jeffrey Dahmer, or Charles Manson, or many other less notorious people. The question is WHY DO YOU WANT TO BE WITH HER?

I am not saying that you are a perfect part of this marriage. Your drinking only hurts you, and it would harm a good marriage. However, that can not justify her behavior. Unless you were attacking her in a similar evil manner, there could be NO EXCUSE for her behaviour.

On the topic of implants. If you have insurance that will pay for a revision, I would get a 3-piece implant from an EXPERT SPECIALIST. Most women would never even know you have an implant unless you told them.

You will never lay a plan for moving forward and improving your life until you stop drinking alcohol. It undermines your health, your goal-setting, planning, and prevents you from following through on your plans.
Title: Re: My life
Post by: IwillbeatPD on December 08, 2023, 03:04:38 PM
As others stated, I can't imagine being with someone who was anything but positive and supportive during a time like this. As Hawk pointed out, this is the equivalent of making fun of someone with a disability, which there is really no excuse for. That sounds like a toxic environment and I hope you make the necessary adjustments to surround yourself with positive and supportive people.
Title: Re: My life
Post by: MRFOOTBALL101 on January 08, 2024, 09:57:57 AM
We are split now..I feel mentally better and it's for the best
Title: Re: My life
Post by: Hawk on January 08, 2024, 10:09:51 AM
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