My partner and I had amazing sex. He was 8 inches and thick. Now after Peyronies he's 5 inches and the girth is reduced and it isn't as hard. We can no longer do certain positions and limited to what can be done. I can't feel anything many times with sex. His penis becomes very soft. I can't fake I feel something and I try to please him but it's showing. I feel so sad. I love him but not sure I can go on like this. I'm afraid to discuss it. I'm now becoming depressed not knowing if I can go the rest of my life without feeling sexual intercourse. I know sex isn't everything but I find myself yearning for feeling intercourse again. I don't know what to do and I feel helpless. Are there support groups with women to discuss this stuff. It doesn't appear there is anything to help him. He's seen the number 2 doctor on this. He's bought the extender which helped a little in the beginning. I just find myself not wanting sex. This is so hard to deal with.
Hi there, please send a PM to (female) member stabler67, from what I have read of her posts she will be very helpful :)
You can also e-mail her at Stabler67@outlook.com
Really? If it's hard for you, imagine how hard it must be for him. Don't play with him if you're going to do something be honest with him and do not blackmail him with this
Hello Mgirl,
Please PM so we can talk. I am happy to discuss how you are feeling and help you.
Suicidecomingsoon... let's keep in mind that the forum is here to help everyone that is dealing with Peyronies and try not posting in a hostile manor. Thank you.
Stabler67
Suicidecomingsoon, striking out against others is another sign of depression...please consider treatment.
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I am but no one can help with this, can anyone cure this? No. And I just defended the one who is really going wrong, the person who has the disease (the man). Some of you here are very sensitive, conformist and passive, and it seems that you bother the truth, it does not surprise me that then medicine does not help us with this problem, now we have to treat and cure women for peyronies instead of men LOL
Id like this thread to continue to be set forth to assist Mgirl as this IS her thread and she is asking for our help. Lets not go off topic please.
Stabler67
Mgirl
Please ignore suicidecomingsoon posts.
It seems he is not here to help others, just to complain :(
And it is not his first time!
James
You should suggest your partner join so we can help him properly treat this condition, which is hugely debilitating both physically and mentally. He will currently be suffering greatly.
Hello, I am the male person MGirl is referencing. After reading MGirls post, I am not sure how to react. We love each other dearly, but I have been a very passionate person and intercourse is very important to me. I alway enjoy pleasing the other person and I can no longer do that with MGirl as she noted. This hurts me deeply and I feel I should let her go find someone else that can make her happy. I feel something has been damaged in our relationship. She is a very good person and is reaching out for help. I am not sure what to do, but want the best for her.
Hi there, my advice is simple, read up on peyronie's, get involved and ask questions, your relationship is worth fighting for, right?
Just talking about peyronie's helps you realise that you are not alone, members here are very caring and we all want positive outcomes, or some resolution or improvement :)
Paul (paolo)
Going to be 100% honest here. Your boyfriend feels emasculated at this juncture as many of us do on this forum. I know that Peyronies is hard for both partners as I developed it with my last gf whom I was deeply in love with. We had a great sex life prior to the disease and it all fell apart, she seemed like she was disgusted with me afterward, showed me little affections and pushed me away which made me feel even more worthless than I already had felt. I can't imagine losing 3 inches of length, losing girth, and hardness and then have my gf complain about how hard it is for HER, even though that is true. I'm not saying your feelings are invalid, coming to this forum at least shows you do care to learn about the disease(dont even like calling it that).
With my ex-GF I could have stayed with her if she was a burn victim and had no hands and legs because I loved her more than her private parts, I absolutely loved pleasuring her in different ways and it made me feel like I could still be her man regardless, though she canceled all those acts out pretty fast after my onset of Peyronies Disease.
Anyways, If that sort of love does not exist here and you can not live in a relationship where you can be satisfied in other ways for the time being (dildos, oral, fingering, making out) then I would with all respect suggest you end it and let him deal with this on his own.
If you are looking to help him and you love him beyond his cock then I would suggest you work with him to help him feel loved and useful in bed beyond his dick- Experiment and have fun. Peyronies is difficult to treat and by the sounds of it, his is very very aggressive at some point down the line he might even get an implant, youll be able to have plenty of sex in that case, but if you don't like him like that then really consider ending it.
My 2 cents.
I would suggest male Mgirl to just focus on getting your dick back, focus on restoring size, using traction/VED and fixing you dick, go to uro, start taking supplements and don't worry about your girl. If she will support you, she will, if she wants to break she will, what will happen will happen, you can do only as much as you can, focus on yourself and solving your issues. Good luck.
Working out difficult issues (such as peyronies or anything else) together as partners strengthens love.
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Hello, I am the male person MGirl is referencing. After reading MGirls post, I am not sure how to react. We love each other dearly, but I have been a very passionate person and intercourse is very important to me. I alway enjoy pleasing the other person and I can no longer do that with MGirl as she noted. This hurts me deeply and I feel I should let her go find someone else that can make her happy. I feel something has been damaged in our relationship. She is a very good person and is reaching out for help. I am not sure what to do, but want the best for her.
Hey mate, first step I'd say is make your own account and start asking questions, reading up on treatments etc. There are things that can help and we'd like the chance to help you.
I am not sure whether or not Mgirl mean you to see those posts or not, either way that is something to sort out between you, hopefully via an open honest conversation.
As to the physical problem at hand, things can improve with time and treatments. Chances are you might never get back to what you were, but you can certainly get much much better than now.
Hello, I signed up for my own account. I am the guy half of Mgirl. Thank you for all the advice even if it is hard to hear. But, you have given me hope and inspiration. Finding MGirls post this week greatly hurt me more than anything ever in my life. I did not understand that our situation was this bad. I am deeply in love with her and like others here, she is (maybe was) my world. And I was about to change my world for her due to this deep, deep love (soul mate type). About 3 years ago, we were having some very heated love making when I injured myself and it all started. I wish I would have known how bad it was because I would have done more than I already was which I am going to do now and taking immediate action. I have always worked at pleasing more than receiving – it is important to me for this to be a two way street. I hope she sees this and loves me enough to do the same. We will see. But, here is what I am doing: #1: After this happened, the worst thing that I did was put weight on that I had lost to be with MGirl. I know that reducing this weight will bring back hardness to my erection. I am going at this aggressively. #2: I am seeing another doctor. I only saw one real one (Levine in Chicago that was very helpful). I am seeing another that shows great promise #3: I used traction but stopped after MGirl became concerned with some things she read. I am starting that back up. #4: Erection hardness - although I thought this was improving greatly naturally, this is an easy one to fix further. Diet/exercise will help this greatly - already did when I lost weight once before, but I have started to take supplements that have been proven to improve this without the blue pill. But, we all know there are other natural and blue pill oriented to improve this. I should have taken the clue from MGirl during a doctors appt a year ago when they asked if I wanted something, she almost jumped out of her seat and when I said no, she then said I was fine there - but I wish she would have been honest and said otherwise. #5: I have joined this site with my own account. I will be seeking advice. #6: I know I will get back to my original sizes or close. I have already seen changes and will not give up. I had calcification originally and it is now 100% gone - Yes! I am going to leverage some exercises that have been shown to help reduce the plaque – PS: I am straight – just lost size and girth noted by Mgirl, but it could be worse #6: I want to help others. I want to turn this bad thing into something that helps others. #7: I want to give Mgirl a chance to see if she really truly loves me. She told me Love and Sex is joined – thus I should follow my heart. The problem is it is not my heart that I am wondering about, it is hers. She says she will prove it to me. I know what I would do if I was her. I am glad I found this post by Mgirl. I needed to know, although devasting to me. #8: I know I can go on and will get better. Regardless of what happens with Mgirl, I am not a bad looking guy. Although my eye never strays because Mgirl is the cream in my coffee in every way (I mean this – I dream about her constantly), I do get attention and even more when my weight is down a bit. Again, I want Mgirl, but I stand a good chance at finding love again if she does not come through. I will find someone that a can make happy and please physically. #9: If anyone hears of experimental treatments, let me know. I am game. I will be looking. #10: I have a friend that also has it that I will use for support. With this all being said, even though I lost size and girth, I am not really that bad and I WILL get better. Finding this post has motivated me further, your comments inspired me and I WILL get better. But bottom line - I hope Mgirl can fights for me.