I often get asked why I am single or about my dating prospects.
For the past 8 years I've been in denial or too insecure to tell the truth.
As Valentine's Day approaches I'm just gonna be honest and make a joke of the situation if people ask.
I told a few of my good friends about my situation and that helped ease my mind.
I think the next step in my psychological progress is to be able to joke about it in front of the ladies.
After 8 years of hell... I think I'm finally at peace with it all.
Share your thoughts or let us know how it went for you if you've done something similar.
It is true that we can be in denial for a long time. Accepting things the way they are is a way to get out of the rut, but I say that quitting on life is not the answer. It is good that you are going to get a Doppler. We should always strive to believe that things can get better which is a mindset. Telling your best friend what is going on is very helpful. I shared with my wife and then eventually with my son what was happening to me. It helped me emotionally and freed my mind to believe that things are going to get better. I would be careful though who you share this with as some acquaintances wouldn't understand your honesty and transparency.
I think its great you no longer feel the guilt, the Need to Hide, and the shame of having a disease that Is beyond your control.
Some diseases are strictly dependent on our lifestyle (smoking, binge eating, drug abuse). Peyronie instead usually its beyond our control so its not our fault, we shouldnt really feel guilty about It
Still i think if i told some people that are jerks about It they might make a joke out of It and maybe male me feel bad about It
But if you accepted It and you are serene, people like this Will not hurt you
Talking to someone is the way to go! I waited to talk to someone, then I told my best friend I've had since second grade. He is awesome! He always listens and best of all asks tons of questions to this day! He's always involved now, besides having this forum to help mentally, he's done so much too! You'd think friends don't wanna hear about your penis, wrong they have one too.
I'm a lifer here now.
Thank you guys for the support!
Thanks dudes.
I'll be careful who I share this with... not because I'm scared what they'll say, but because I don't want to burden some people.
I'm curious to see how it goes when a girl is interested in me and I playfully mention this
I told about my condition to my best friends, my brother and a week ago to my aunt, they don't fully understand the situation because I still can have erections, but at least they know why I'm not the happy guy anymore.Our condition is very debilitating mentally and we are not able to share it with people because is very intimate, I wish we all come out to the public so maybe the Medical community would do more to try to find a solution, but probably there are so many men that do not tell anyone and keep it as a secret. There was an study in Germany with thousands of recent deceased men and found that over 22%!!!!! Of the men had penis fibrosis!!!, that is a huge number
i have to say that more than once, after revealing this condition to someone, the other person will also some deep and dark secret.
For example a friend of mine told me about her fibromyalgia, a condition that basically causes chronic pain, expecially when you are emotionally stressed (do you see the link? when you have emotional stress erections are also worse).
This is to say that talking, confronting, can make us understand that suffering in the world comes in many forms, not just peyronie's. Yet people seem to keep going, so maybe we can too
One thing in the medical world is that stress causes more health problems than you can think of. There really isn't any way to calculate the damage that is caused from it.
ngl the ultrasound / injection tomorrow has me stressed out!
almost a decade of being in denial / shame / being undiagnosed comes to an end though!
ran into an old coworker as I walked back from lunch
he was with a girl my age and tried setting me up
i wasn't too interested in her but joked "if you're in the mood for disappointment i got you covered"
they both cracked up!
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apparently a girl from church is also interested in me...
it goes to show that not being insecure and thirsty for a woman's approval is a huge piece of the puzzle
when my identity was focused on the function of my penis, i was toxic and repelling women
I have been suffering from penile issues for 9 years and my mom, brother and one of my bestest friend know about my condition but they don't take it very seriously, mostly because most of the doctors I've been to have not taken me seriously.
I would say you can definitely tell your close friends and family about it but be very aware of who you share this problem with.