Particularly in American male culture, it is easy to see how suicide crosses the mind. What a shallow lot we have become. Pretty sad.
The penis curves or deforms and we think the world is over.
Medical studies suggest that 11 out of every hundred men has a curve. Think about that, the next time you're in a stadium with 20,000 fans watching a game, just guesstimate that 50% of the fans are men, that means on average there are 1,000 OTHER MEN in that stadium with the VERY SAME secret -- some kind of curvature to their dick. That's a lot of guys who don't look like Mr. Perfect Porn Star.
In our own little brain, it can seem like we're alone or cast offs, but lots of guys have curves in some degree. A curve (of any source or cause) is nonetheless a curve.
What's more, there are a number of urologists who have become specialists with male sexual health, it is their specialty.
Male sexual health is actually an area of medical practice in our world today, and most insurance companies pay for male sexual treatment. As I recently discovered, even female doctors have made it their mission to help men who would rather not have a curve, among other things that can affect our sexual health.
I'm 55, and have been living with a curved penis since my first erections at puberty. I've never liked it. I was embarrassed about it. When I met the woman that I wanted to marry, I disclosed the condition to her. Her reaction was priceless, "Why would I care about that? I just want you to love me and cherish me." 29 years later she's never said a word about it. She laughs with me, at my shallow embarrassment, at my jokes, at my shenanigans, e.g. I prefer to make love in the dark so I don't have to see my curve and one rare moment when we were doing the wild thing during the daytime I came running into the room, American Indian style, with a kitchen towel draped as a loin cloth over my very erect member. She laughs with me.
But, I forge on. We can be the kind of men EWRA talks about, the kind that own our challenge and the paths we forge. Man up in our approach, our thinking, and become a little less shallow. We are not a penis, we are males with a penis. Huge difference.
Or we can be little boys who impale ourselves on shallow fears, unfounded worries, and ignorance.
If you're reading this and feeling down, I want to encourage you. There is hope. But it has to start with YOU.
Here's what I learned in the year 2016 that I hope can bring you as much encouragement as I have discovered. A curved penis has the following things in common with other medical conditions:
- When you're talking to a medical provider, don't be surprised if the one you're talking to speaks like an authoritative but clueless dunce. Find a MALE SEXUAL HEALTH provider. These are board certified medical doctors who only focus on male sexual health. They've seen every bend, arch, curve, tilt, corkscrew, U-turn, or combo you can imagine. And, they live to partner with us men to achieve our goals.
- There are many medical providers on the Doctor search sites who list "Peyronie's" as a thing they treat. If you have a curved penis of any cause, you want to find a medical doctor who is actively engaged in providing treatment of Peyronie's. But, it doesn't stop there. 1) You have to own the process of being the one who is responsible for your body. 2) You interview potential providers to cull out those who don't meet the search criteria. In a separate post, I'll list the criteria I used to find not one but three male sexual health providers in the United States. There probably more, but they're not easy to find.
- You have to be a wise consumer of information. As with any other topic, other humans are quite happy (me included) to tell you what we think, how we feel, what our opinion is. The topic of curved penises is no exception. As a consumer, you have to read enough factual material from male sexual health specialists (and readily available from Google) so that when you visit a site like this Peyronie's forum, you don't get sucked into the well-intentioned but completely bogus comments that some people attempt to pass of as factual. For example, today I read these two comments, "surgery doesn't really work," and "surgery is a last resort." Lots of people have those opinions, but those are from the Dark Ages. Get current and read for yourself. There's an entire medical field now dedicated to male sexual health, curved penises especially, and
it is an exciting time to be alive!!! The three male sexual health surgeons I ultimately found this year and spoke with have completed penile surgery thousands of times. And, more men are lined up. In fact, this medical specialty has been around for so long I feel like a doofus for not knowing some years back.
So, get out of the Dark Ages. Man up. Be a responsible information consumer so that you can make wise decisions, based on your very own preferences, based on real data -- not Dark Ages information floating around here or anywhere else.
About me:
- I have a 50+/- degree curve. Had it forever.
- At this point, it affects my sex life by messing with my thinking about myself, and I take generic Viagra to help get rigidity and duration. And, after pleasing my wife, I have to move into an X over my wife so that I can have a climax. It has the benefit of giving her better access to stuff, but it is still embarrassing to me.
- I went to one general practitioner, and two urologists. Their comments, in order, were, "That curve is no big deal." "Yep, Peyronie's, I can feel this huge strand of
plaque right here." "Oh, for sure, Peyronie's. But, that other urologist was wrong. The
plaque is right here, not over there." I visited these folks while I was doing research and gathering data, as the owner of my body. Eventually I learned they were all wrong.
As a man with a 50 degree curve and a diminishing sex life, I have more hope than ever. More to come once I reach five posts on this site.
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