Performance -- Having as good sex as possible with this condition

[love]

Hi everyone, so I have a penis that bends slightly upwards (slight curve, but more inflexible and difficult to bend to a straight or downward angle than anything). The penis is always inflamed to some extent and cannot take very much pressure or vigorous action without reacting poorly.  I'm very alright with foreplay, but my actual sexual experience has been relatively minimal in part due to receiving this condition at a young age.

Anyway, now that I have a particular girl in my life I would like to figure out what measures I can take to have successful sex with her. She has enthusiastically complimented my fingering abilities, but whenever I have actually penetrated her it has been underwhelming in part -- I believe -- due to my inexperience -- but more significantly due to my less hard erections, inflammation, and the physics of my somewhat awkward angle. The second time I had sex with her, I could not get fully hard (w/ Cialis) -- which made my penis slip out -- and her blowjob did not even feel good, something that greatly disturbed me.

Despite these mishaps, she still declares her feelings for me and I am now extremely committed to making the best of this situation and finding ways to have successful sex with her. So far, I have taken to vigorous sessions of cardiovascular exercise to increase my stamina, and ordered lubricant. However, since my upward bend and often-not-fully-hard erections has made successful penetration difficult (both in missionary and doggy style position), I'm wondering what the many experienced men on this forum with similar symptoms (slight upward curve/inflexibility, less than full erections, inflammation) have done to achieve the most satisfactory (and least damaging) sex possible.

I imagine lubricant is highly important to ensure less damaging sex -- especially because when she roughly grabs and pulls on my penis without it it leads to much more pain than pleasure -- and one user by private message has discussed putting a pillow under the woman to make penetration easier. But what other techniques and sex positions have people used? Is there any sort of 'from left field' type of sex shop item I could use to enhance her pleasure? And what about exercises I could do on my own? Finally, are there any good online 'sex manuals' I could use? I have yet to find one that's very great.

Any advice would be greatly appreciated.  

[swolf]

If inflammation is a major problem for you you might want to take a very wide view of what could be causing/exacerbating that. Things like diet can play a huge role and often seemingly innocuous foods like peppers can cause problems. It's not always easy to figure out what foods work best for you personally, but it's a crucial area to examine. (I realize that doesn't directly address your question, but if you find you're allergic or sensitive to something in your diet, eliminating it can pretty quickly bring about changes in your health. Not to mention things you're probably not actually intolerant to but still should be cut out.)

[love]

Hmm... I have always drank a ton of milk, and consume lots of other dairy-based products. It would be really hard to eliminate these things from my diet, but obviously if it stopped this problem it would be worth it. Do you think I should give it a try?

Also, if I were to eliminate milk from my diet could I also consume whey protein? According to Wikipedia it has anti-inflammatory effects. And what about casein?

[swolf]

I don't know, everybody seems to be different when it comes to dairy. I don't eat any of it (though I do use some ghee I make myself) because I can't digest milk, and cheese and some other dairy products that I can digest better just seem to make me sluggish. Dairy can be very phlegm-producing for the body but I don't know how much so if you are able to tolerate it. I used to eat a lot of yogurt but I've replaced that with other probiotic-laden foods like miso.

I try to stick to simple foods like lots of fresh fruits (mostly apples and berries, some fresh figs these past few weeks) and vegetables, dark leafy greens, rice/wild rice, some other whole grains like quinoa, nuts/seeds... hmm, some other things. I make a lot of soup and just throw everything in there. I don't eat dairy, gluten (or most things made out of flour, really), added sugar (besides my favorite thing in the world, chocolate), or most oils. I eat meat but very little these days. This is all just what works for me; I wish I was better at advising on this but really an elimination diet might be the best way to find out what works for you.  

[james1947]

love

Have you tried Viagra for intercourse? For long time it helped me, while Cialis has not done nothing to achieve a full erection.
I will also like to say that the majority of the woman I met enjoyed oral sex more than penetration. I can't say how many % because I did not make statistics.
The upward bend should not make problems with penetration, the soft penis does. The pillow you have mentioned in your post may help also with the penetration.
Regarding lubrication, some woman blessed with a lot of natural lubrication so don't need additional lubrication.
Also the forplay helps a lot for many woman, making them to release the self lubrication fluids and the penetration will be easier also because they will be more open and ready for the penetration.
Do you take Pentox? It may help with inflammation and pain. You have to treat your inflammation because thinking that the penetration will cause you discomfort and pain is adding to the ED problem.

James