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CCLVR

I don't know how any of you can make light of any of this. My husband and I went 5 years without sex- there is no orifice in my body shaped like his penis. And no- you can  suggest alternatives all you want -and yes they were a part of our sex life - but not the only component. Penetration is almost impossible now- not painful for him but for me. He has no problem getting and sustaining an erection. I just can't figure out a way to make us fit. I just began initiating sex with him again last month but it isn't the same. I hate that it will never be the same again! It's not that I'm that highly driven but I need to have some of that physical intimacy and sex without penetration is not nearly as good. I feel like we've lost something huge. I am angry with him for not seeking help earlier. I am angry with him for continuing to wear tight briefs with  his penis bent downwards. (I think an upward curve would have been physiologically more compatible.) I hate that even  now he acts like it's a foregone conclusion. but the more I read the more it seems there is no cure. A lover is out of the question. I want intimacy with the man I married. If I were to have an affair I would probably just end up having feelings for that person and screw up an otherwise great 26 year monogamous marriage. I am very angry as I write this though he won't know how much resentment I harbor. He is 73 now and correcting it is much more difficult than it would have been 10 years ago when it began. Sorry, just needed to sound off. I feel like I'm being selfish at times but mostly I'm just ticked off and I definitely need to talk to some women about this.

james1947

CCLVR

I can understand your feelings even I am not a woman.
As I understand from your post the only problem your husband have is a downward curvature. Have solutions for the problem, for some one solution is working, for someone else an other solution.
He was diagnosed by a doctor for having Peyronies?

By the way, have a board named "Women Speak Out about Peyronies Disease - PUBLIC Forum"
In addition, have a woman private board that is not visible to no one except the female forum members.
If you don't know how to get there, you may send a PM (Private Message) to Christine that is the moderator of the woman only board.

James
Age 71, Peyronies from Jan 2009 following penis fracture during sex. Severe ED.
Lost 2" length and a lot of girth. Late start, still VED, Cialis & Pentox helped. Prostate surgery 2014.
Got amazing support on the forum

CCLVR

James 1947,
His GP diagnosed him but after he looked it up online several years ago, he never took it further- never went to a urologist, etc. etc. . What is it with men and their penises? I am trying to encourage him into looking into some  solutions again but this morning he gave me that, "You're sounding like a nag," look again so I dropped it. Yes, I sent a message to Christine last night- that's how I first found this board- I googled Peyronies support for women- and that is the only hit I got. I really couldn't even find how to respond to your reply- is this correct?

james1947

You just push the "Replay" button and the "Replay box appears.
You are doing it correct.
Difficult for me to understand your husband indifference to the situation. I was thinking that for every man the sex is the most important thing. Maybe it comes from trying to lower the importance of the problem, like a deffence shield, but I am not a psychologist.
Maybe on the "Woman only board" you can get some opinion from other woman.
Good luck to bring him to the knowledge that it is important, it is a problem and the problem ca be treated.

James
Age 71, Peyronies from Jan 2009 following penis fracture during sex. Severe ED.
Lost 2" length and a lot of girth. Late start, still VED, Cialis & Pentox helped. Prostate surgery 2014.
Got amazing support on the forum