hi all

[mike78]

i am 32 years (sexually not active), diagnosed with peyronies disease more than 2 years ago, with 35 -40% bend in penis.On examination UR was having the following statement.
it seems to  me that u got two plaques in ur penis, there was plaque on the dorsum of the penis and the proximal shaft. there was a further plaque on the ventral aspect in the distal shaft of the penis.it seems likely to me that patient has a congenital chordee without hypospadius. this has been complicated by the development of a peyronies's disease over the last eight weeks.the peyronies's disease would certainly account for the discomfort, doctor at that stage advised me to avoid any medical treatment. so i never used any medication for this.
Now after passing around 2.5 years, my bend is around 20 to 25% left, but the shape of penis is very awkward, i am planning to marry, now i want to get advice wether i should marry or not. bcz i don't want to ruin someone's life, bcz in my conservative culture neither men nor women are sexually active before marriage. i just want to know whether i have to go for checkup agian to know whether i am fit enough to marry, i am totally confused. plz do let me know. thanks
mike

[LWillisjr]

Mike,

I definitely understand your concern and fear. So I would suggest the following:

1. You should try to seek treatment from a specialist. I don't know where you are living, but everyday we are finding more and more centers that specialize in Peyronies Disease. So you should investigate this for your own "peace of mind".

2. My personal experience and that of others on this forum, is that sexual intercourse is still very possible for you given your assessment of 20-25% curvature. My wife and I were able to have intercourse even when my curve started to exceed 45 degrees. Eventually I had a maximum bend of 70 degrees, and I will admit that at 70 degrees it was a problem. I would have been happy if my curve had stayed less then 40 degrees.

So my recommendation would be to continue with your marriage plans, and to start seeking treatment from a doctor who specializes in this. There are many things you can yourself that are covered extensively on this forum (traction and VED therapy). So you can start now to keep the curvature from getting worse and hopefully improving it to become more straight again.

[restore]

Good advice.  Would also like to add, that just as you open up other areas of your life to your fiancé before marriage (where you'll live, whether to have children, who will work, our values, our fears, our desires, etc.), also talk about this most personal condition.  It might surprise you that it won't matter.  But I certainly understand and admire your concern.  It is very selfless of you to want to spare her anything that might affect her negatively.  Keep in mind many couples have a fulfilling sex life with this condition and make changes where they need to.  Open and honest communication is necessary here I think.    

David

[mercurza]

Mike,

I have had peyronie's for 2.5 years with a curve to the left, 2 plaques, and some other odd indentations. I got married this past May  hadn't had sex yet while we were dating/engaged, and I was incredibly nervous on our honeymoon because - so nervous that it affected my performance (and with Peyronies Disease, that performance wasn't that good at the time).

This situation and subsequent talks ended up being one of the best things that have happened to our relationship and brought us much closer. She is a very understanding wife, and letting her in on this also has helped me not feel so alone. She even recently told me I should join this forum after SHE researched it for me. We are still able to have sex, but we just have to be more patient and creative - which is not always bad. Also, communicating about our sex life was also beneficial.

So my advice would be that if you find a woman who truly loves you, then she can (through many discussions and patience) be a partner with you in this.

I am going to be seeing a urologist soon to discuss treatment beyond Vitamin E so I am definitely a newbie here, but thought my recent experience could help.

[Brightdog]

Mercurza - that is beautiful. Thank you.

[carepharmarx]

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