Anxiety and stress in the bedroom

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jakeM

I noticed I've been having a lot of anxiety during sex. That it causes me to lose my erections instantly. Whenever I cuddle with the girl. I'm ready to go, but when it's time to perform. It dies. And they always get frustrated with me. The last girl I gave her oral. She wanted more though, she wanted penetration sex. I didn't even want to try to get in her. So I left, she stop talking to me. It happen a lot with the other girls I've been talking to recently. I can't get the idea out of my head that I may one day cause an injury due to the downward shape and left curve.  Also another thing I watch too much porn. Way too much. I masturbate several times a week, nothing more than 6x times a week. And I'll give myself a three day break and repeat masturbation either less than 6x times or 6x a week again. Also I have a habit where I watch a lot of porn to cause myself to get an erection and check my erection through the mirror. It dies down within a minute if I'm not masturbating. Which isn't normal.  I also believe I can be doing damage internally by forcing blood almost every hour in the penis by watching porn here and there. I would watch porn for five minutes get an erection. Then do it again after an hour has passed by and repeat that several times in a day. This is all without masturbating, just by simply watching it. Eventually I'll cave in and masturbate.

Before I was not like this, this all happen mid july of 2018. When I was curious and google why does my dick curve. It's always curved but I was curious. Anyways ever since I found out about peyroines, even though I don't have it based on the ultrasound results. Except I don't even trust that. I'm convinced at 14 my penis was probably straight. But I can't really remember. The only time I remember my dick curve was around 16-18 years old. I've serious trap myself with the idea something may be wrong, and I'm thinking to do another ultrasound but with an erection this time.

Age 25
Mid July 2018 - Assumed I had peyroines

March 2019 - Did an doppler ultrasound in flaccid state, no plaque or scar was found. Blood flow was normal

Turns out it's cogential.

Bubba dawg

Having a similar problem for 6 months now. Can get an erection to masturbate. Nocturnal erections ok. When it comes to having sex with the wife, it is viagra time. I was fine for a good while after treatment for Peyrones. Then one day, no dice. Just a mental thing, I guess. My heart starts racing too. Like all the blood is pumping everywhere but my dick
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jakeM

Yeah dude it F^@$!ng sucks. It is a mental thing for sure. I think with me my anxiety is also more of I need to stay hard, I think due to the amount of porn I watch. I'm slowly getting convinced I may start to have ED or can only get erected with porn. Except I have morning woods everyday, they die as soon as I get up though. I noticed if I haven't masturbated in a week or so. They last a little longer.  
Age 25
Mid July 2018 - Assumed I had peyroines

March 2019 - Did an doppler ultrasound in flaccid state, no plaque or scar was found. Blood flow was normal

Turns out it's cogential.

Bubba dawg

I don't have an answer to this problem, Maybe it is low T. I am doing TRT gel, but still don't think it is getting me where I need to be. Have to had your Testosterone levels checked? Visual is important during sex rather than fantasy
5 Rounds of Xiaflex. Good results.

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jakeM

No I haven't, I'll get that check.  
Age 25
Mid July 2018 - Assumed I had peyroines

March 2019 - Did an doppler ultrasound in flaccid state, no plaque or scar was found. Blood flow was normal

Turns out it's cogential.

Hawk

Porn, can easily become addictive with a lot of bad repercussions.  I think you are experiencing some of these.  At some point, you will have to decide what is more important to you, pornography or intimacy with an actual person.  

You do not mention if you have tried any oral medication like Viagra or daily Cialis.  If you have not then this will likely help.  If your ED is psychological you will likely be able to reduce and then eliminate it once you are away from porn and have had several successful experiences with your partner.  Your brain will have those successful experiences to draw upon rather than dwelling on fear and failure.  It is the adrenalin that binds to receptors and the mental distraction that are often the problem.  The ever more explicit porn also often interferes with real-life intimacy.

Since this topic neatly fits under the ED section of the forum, it should have been made there.  I will move it for you and live a temporary link here.

Hawk
Prostatectomy 2004, radiation 2009, currently 70 yrs old
After pills, injections, VED - Dr Eid, Titan 22cm implant 8/7/18
Hawk - Updated 10/27/18 - Peyronies Society Forums

skunkworks

Yup. Go cold turkey on porn and masturbation and you'll have the opposite problem soon enough.
This is an emotionally destructive condition, we all have it, let's be nice to each other.

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Paolo

If you have a few minutes I recommend you watch Gary Wilson 'The Great Porn Experiment', link as follows;

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=wSF82AwSDiU

Also try (it's hard) to cut down masturbating.
Paul.
Whenever you find yourself on the side of the majority, it is time to pause and reflect.

Hawk

That is an interesting link well woth the time.
Prostatectomy 2004, radiation 2009, currently 70 yrs old
After pills, injections, VED - Dr Eid, Titan 22cm implant 8/7/18
Hawk - Updated 10/27/18 - Peyronies Society Forums

NeoV

Quitting porn indeed gave me the opposite problem as Skunworks said. At first you don't believe it, but you will begin having erections out of the blue like back in high school.

Also, vitamin D is CRITICAL for nocturnal erections and penile health, as it's the ONLY vitamin we do not get enough of as modern humans due to it coming from the sun. Men with Peyronie's and Dupuytren's have low vitamin D levels, as well as diabetics, so take it seriously.

But for stress and anxiety, you just need to talk to women, experience them, and get "comfortable in your own skin." It took me until 30 to really get there, but I used to be in a mental prison about that kind of thing.

Bubba dawg

Ya but some of us can't give up Porn and Masturbation because our women don't want sex all that much anymore. I agree it is not good for actual sex. But unless we are planning on a divorce. We are really in the porn trap. I think if mine didn't have a hard labor job, she would have more energy for sex. Post menopause, sickness and a tough job leaves her with little sex drive. I get it one time per week
5 Rounds of Xiaflex. Good results.

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