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Tychy

Hey,

You're right, stop sexual activity until the pain and inflammation subsides. Try heat treatment and daily Cialis of 2.5mg additionally to your supplements.

Now a personal side note. Stop drinking alcohol.
It seems to tamper with your self control to the point you went cheating and not caring for your injury. Loss of impulse control is normal for alcohol, but some people seem to be more affected. Also it is bad for inflammation.  

Paolo

Agree with Tychy, stop the (heavy) alcohol consumption, that along with pain killers (tylenol) is going to do your liver absolutely no good.
Are you lonely for long periods of time and don't have close relative family support, that is not good.

You have said 'I am terribly underemployed and have very little money to my name', can you do something about that?, you need some distraction from your current state of mind and hope you find something.

Try and stop the masturbation and prostitute use, and as previously mentioned the excessive alcohol.
Whenever you find yourself on the side of the majority, it is time to pause and reflect.

sully

Quote from: BentnBKK on July 08, 2017, 11:53:29 PM
I am terribly underemployed and have very little money to my name. I don't know how I will ever afford surgery, but I am beginning to think it will eventually be the only option. I am terribly ashamed that I got drunk, picked up a prostitute, and then injured myself again.

I have a significant downward curve, as well as a significant leftward curve. My dick is f'^+'ed up. I think about suicide sometimes. Being so young, I still hope to find a wife, a career, build a family. But I feel like my peyronies is going to negatively effect my chances at all of these things.

It sounds like you are dealing with issues that go beyond your Peyronies Disease specifically... although I/we can certainly understand how the condition can seem depressing, but you have several other support systems and emotional issues that are making the Peyronies Disease seems so much worse.

I'm no therapist, but eventually you will need to be honest with your girlfriend if you (1) care about her, and (2) want her to be a part of your life long-term.  Of course she will not be happy to hear the news (and I'm not saying NOW is the right time... I don't really know) but living that lie will tear you up inside, and will make her feel worse when she DOES find out and realizes you were lying all that time.

Alcohol consumption is part of the problem as others mentioned, and perhaps you should examine why that is how you spend your time.  Concentrating on finding work, and working once you have the chance, should help to direct your energy elsewhere.

In the holistic sense, your Peyronies Disease is not likely to improve while you are so stressed out on so many levels.  Working to get yourself "right" emotionally, relationally (if that's a word), and financially will help ease your mind and THEN you can concentrate more on Peyronies Disease and some options to deal with it.  Until then, it will just be one more stressor and unlikely to get better.

My Peyronies Disease does not affect my career, wife, and family in any negative way.  In fact my wife is very supportive and that helps me/us figure out how we're going to deal with it.  That makes me feel hopeful about the future (even if my symptoms don't get better) rather than overly depressed.

Christopher1

Switch the tylenol to aspirin.
Snake Diet + 5-day fasts + pentox + NeoV's stretching routine + Mito Red Light. Curvature 99% gone.

I also used Todd Capistrant's "Fascial Distortion Model" to help my curvature. Start slowly.

Tychy

Or Ibuprofen if Aspirin is too weak. Aspirin overdose is not fun. Watch for heartburn anyways when taking NSAIDs.  

HFB

Sully had great input.  You have a lot of soul searching to do and none of it is found at the bottom of a glass/bottle.  Not many people and rarely for long does anyone have the cat by the tail in life.  It is about prioritization as much as it sucks to be rational and quit some of your temporary satisfying actions.  There is no rationalizing cheating on your GF and putting her health at risk (condom or not).  Time to step back and think what you would tell a loved one in this situation and apply such advice to yourself.  Suicide is never an answer either as every problem in whatever form is one that can be dealt with or adapted to successfully.  In order to make a difference you need to be the difference in your own life.  The Peyronies Disease setback is temporary...you do not thrive by sexual fulfillment only...you will find a way to improve your lot in life:)

swiss

I am going to be bluntly honest right now-

I am 29 with Peyronies and it makes me feel like I am less of a man. I have taken on a personal journey to rebuild my self worth and realize that it does not start and end with my dick. Your self worth DOES NOT start or end with your penis, you must rewire your brain through sheer willpower over the course of what may be many months or years and realize that you are enough, and that the disease is not the end of your life.

That being said, you need to leave your GF like a man and rebuild your life from the ground up. If you haven't hit rock bottom yet you are on your way. I have been there and it is not fun, but realize that rock bottom is a learning experience. If you can push through rock bottom then you will be stronger for it. Masculinity is in the mind, it is shown by your actions, your strength and your honesty. You lost that and it is nothing to be ashamed up, but now you need to rebuild.

Pick yourself up. Dust yourself off and be the man you were meant to be- Bent Penis or not.

Make a list of who you want to become and work towards that everyday and yes stop having sex until you are better both physically and mentally.
Work on yourself and then come back to a relationship when you are ready to give UNCONDITIONAL love.

Quote from: BentnBKK on July 08, 2017, 11:53:29 PM


I have a girlfriend (who I cheated on with the prostitute), and am now having to make excuses as to why I suddenly have pain again. I also feel pressure to continue pleasuring her. But I know I shouldn't have sex for a while, right?? I need to wait until the everyday/constant pain is gone again, right? This is such a nightmare. I am only 28 years old, and I want to have sex like a normal guy. It used to be such a joy. Now I am just depressed everyday.

I am terribly underemployed and have very little money to my name. I don't know how I will ever afford surgery, but I am beginning to think it will eventually be the only option. I am terribly ashamed that I got drunk, picked up a prostitute, and then injured myself again.

Should I stop all sex and masturbation until the pain stops again? Any helpful encouragement or advice is really appreciated. I am kind of losing it...

Stabler

Moderator since 2015- Missouri- I work in the medical field and have strong knowledge of insurance and how to obtain coverage for medication and other treatments. Being a woman I do not have Peyronies but you can ask me anything. I am happy to help.

Paolo

Swiss, totally agree with your post, good luck  :)
Whenever you find yourself on the side of the majority, it is time to pause and reflect.

Tychy

Swiss, can totally agree. Thanks for sharing.  

jim morrison


Hontas

I don't agree with giving love at all. Don't force yourself to give love, that sounds like a very bad way to live. I would suggest not attaching to any women at all, have fun have sex and live your life as a man. Don't listen to any girls advice because all of those would end with something that would give you pain.

suicidecomingsoon

Agree with Hontas
This guy knows what he's talking about

suicidecomingsoon

Quote from: swiss on July 26, 2017, 05:37:05 PM
then come back to a relationship when you are ready to give UNCONDITIONAL love.
LoL

TonySa

What?! Leave his girlfriend??? Issues arise in relationships and they can be worked through if both individuals are committed to doing so.  Most of us are better off in a living commited relationship, especially if having to adapt to a medical condition such as peyronies.
PxD 2 yrs 9/16.  Failed all treatment. 9/11/18: excision, grafting & implant Dr Karpman MtnView Ca, AMS CX 18cm + 3-1cm RTEs.
Pump failed.  2/11/20 Dr Karpman installed Titan 22cm +1cm RTE.

Hontas

Quote from: Tsanchez12369 on April 28, 2018, 12:17:51 PM
Most of us are better off in a living commited relationship, especially if having to adapt to a medical condition such as peyronies.
i bet there are millions of men who have very small penises who are single and happy as ever. With peyronies as well, they just have the balls to be alone for the rest of their lives. And honestly whats better than being single dude, you get to do whatever you want whenever you want. If you see yourself as less of a man, then you just have to get over it.

james1947

How old you are Hontas?

I suppose at least 100 if you are a so big expert in woman.
I am just 70, but I have a completely different opinion about woman, including Turkish woman, I lived there many years.
I have to state that even at 70, I am still learning the subject (of woman) and I consider myself still a novice in the subject ;)
Your view of life is also a very selfish one.
Without insulting (it is not my target to do so), we have very different points of view regarding life :)
All my life I give much more than I get and I am fine with that. I like to see people happy :)

Also your posts lately are very contradictory to what you have posted not so long time ago. In your forum profile, you can go back and read all your posts and see the difference.

James
Age 71, Peyronies from Jan 2009 following penis fracture during sex. Severe ED.
Lost 2" length and a lot of girth. Late start, still VED, Cialis & Pentox helped. Prostate surgery 2014.
Got amazing support on the forum

Hontas

Quote from: james1947 on April 29, 2018, 03:23:03 AM
How old you are Hontas?

Also your posts lately are very contradictory to what you have posted not so long time ago. In your forum profile, you can go back and read all your posts and see the difference.

James

I am 30 and I am proud to say that i can see that both genders are shallow and usually don't care. I have a lot of years to live ahead of me, and i will make the most of it.

james1947

I agree with you Hontas that everyone should do what he think that is good for him.
But this is still not giving no one the right to generalize on any issue and derogate woman as woman.
I am far to be a feminist, far from what's going on in the subject, I am an old chauvinist man, but treat woman with respect, same as I treat everyone.
Have negative woman and positive ones, cant say % same as I can say % about bad/good man

Just saying
James
Age 71, Peyronies from Jan 2009 following penis fracture during sex. Severe ED.
Lost 2" length and a lot of girth. Late start, still VED, Cialis & Pentox helped. Prostate surgery 2014.
Got amazing support on the forum