First Sexual Experience

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BATchap

Hi guys,

I had sex for the first time the other night. However, it was not without a little awkwardness and disappointment on my end.
Really, I have a few concerns and a few questions.
First of all, I don't know if everything I'm about to consider an issue is psychologically based but I can say I'm a pretty introverted, nervous and generally anxious person in situations such as that. I don't think I was feeling right at the time, so I went to put the condom on and pretty much just went soft (maybe because there was a cold fan blowing directly on my member idk) and so I penetrated for the first time and it was just a mix of disappointment and concern. It didn't really feel 'good' for me as I expected, possibly because I didn't use any lube (she was very wet already) and it was just uncomfortable. It was dark as well so I couldn't actually see much... plus, I was concerned obviously, about my curvature and penis in general which also contributes to a dampened mindset however she made sure to make me feel like that wasn't an issue. I don't know if it was uncomfortable because I wasn't hard enough either, I really don't know if I was hard enough. That brings me to the next point of concern... from the erect stretches the head of my penis in a flaccid state has decreased in size by a very small amount and when I get erections spontaneously 99% of the time my shaft is very rigid and my head is semi-hard... the only time when the head feels like it's hard is when I'm laying on my side and feel it bulge and get shiny, if you know what I mean, pretty much fully engorged.
Anyway, I don't really know how to go about doing this. Ultimately I'm thinking a Doppler Ultrasound would display any issues in regard to blood flow and stuff (venous leakage maybe?)
Obviously, getting erect from stimulus versus getting erect when you're about to have sex or in a very sexual situation is quite different, there is a noticeable improvement in size and veiny-ness over my normal erections.

Cheers guys.

james1947

Quote...I didn't use any lube (she was very wet already)...
You don't need a lube in this case
Quote...she made sure to make me feel like that wasn't an issue
So why to broke your head? See how will be next time with her
QuoteI penetrated for the first time...I really don't know if I was hard enough.
If you penetrated easily, it was enough hard.
I am just proposing you to try again while you are more relax and concentrate on the sex itself and not on Peyronies and ED

James
Age 71, Peyronies from Jan 2009 following penis fracture during sex. Severe ED.
Lost 2" length and a lot of girth. Late start, still VED, Cialis & Pentox helped. Prostate surgery 2014.
Got amazing support on the forum

QuackAttack

Bat,

It may not be the most intimate method, but using a VED and a constriction ring will solve that problem. If she is the right person, it won't matter. You don't want to go soft and have more injury to your package. Also, with a constriction ring, you can continue even after you climax so she can as well if you don't help her out with that during foreplay, or maybe she will get a second climax and be even happier.