How to not feel broken ?

[ThePerfectMelody]

When I look down at my member, it doesn't stand tall and strong. It rather hangs and half of it stays flaccid. That half buckles when I penetrate. It just makes me feel....broken. Its one job to remain rigid and penetrative is failed, and it makes me feel weak and incapable. Sorry, just venting.

[Stabler]

This is the perfect place to vent, that is one of the reasons why we are here. there is someone here going through the same thing you are so never apologize for venting in this forum about this disease.

Stabler67

[NeoV]

Like Neo in the Matrix, enter a mindful state and simply so "no."

The "no thank you" method is actually an extremely effective method of mindfulness meditation, in which you become the doorkeeper to your thoughts, and only allow thoughts which you permit to enter actually enter. You can't stop thoughts from coming to you, but you can choose not to entertain them and strengthen those neurons and the myelin surrounding them. Elliot Hulse gives a beautiful analogy, he says thoughts are like someone you choose to or not to let enter your house. Would you really spend your time entertaining negative people in your house? Just say f'^+'ing no. This body is what you have, so take it through to the very damn end.

My best quick advice is this.

1. Don't watch porn or limit the hell out of it.

2. Exercise and improve all areas of your physical appearance, whiten your teeth, lift weights.

3. Realize that your personality is not hard set, and that personality trumps physical appearance to women. Women and people in general are starving for positivity.

4. Know that with sex, and other kinds of stimulation, less is preferable over more. Binging on porn and watching all your fantasies makes you feel very empty afterwards, since there are no more sources of stimulation after your exhaust them all. It's much better to find enjoyment with less, the same goes for food, alcohol, and daily activities. There is no "point of arrival," in which you feel finally satisfied, there is only longing, and regret. Instead, create satisfaction from within so that these two extremes disappear.  

[Steveo]

OP you've been on this board for a long time, have you been pumping with a VED for that time?  What have you done to try to correct your condition?  I believe the penis is a very plastic organ that can be changed.  Orthodontists do it to teeth, hipsters do it to their earlobes when they use larger and larger gauge ear studs, etc.  Gymnasts can practically bend backwards and touch their fingers to their heels because they've spent years stretching their tendons, ligaments and muscles.  Penises are no different.  But you've got to do it often for years.

[Stabler]

Steveo

I believe you meant "elastic" not "plastic" but please correct me if Im wrong.

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I believe the penis is a very plastic organ that can be changed.

Stabler67

[NeoV]

He means "plastic" as in "brain plasticity," meaning "changeable."

elastic means stretchable.  

[Stabler]

Thank you Neo

[smithy365]

It certainly does work on your brain and perception of yourself. I feel broken. Sometimes like a freak. Like less of a man...Sometime angry that this has happened to me.  

At first my wife encouraged me and said that she kind of liked the way it felt. But now things are worse and we are having trouble. Because of my Peyronies, it is getting difficult to penetrate....this is compounded by my wife having MAJOR pain issues due to Menopause.  We cannot have intercourse because it is so painful for her. We are in our early 50s and it seems like our sex life is over....I am having a very hard time with that. I am not ready for it to be over!  It has been weeks since we have had sex.

My wifes issue is very complicated. Everything we read says it is about dryness, and to use lube. That doesn't help, because it is so painful for her. Her gyno just pretty much brushed it off. It is even more complicated because she cannot do hormone replacement. We are at a loss and it is VERY depressing. I hate this.

BUT we have not lost hope. We are going to keep trying. I am here, I started VED therapy to hopefully improve (or stabilize) my problem (30 degree or more kink/bend)....and she is using vitimin E suppositories, and we ordered a lube injector..

We need to find a forum for her issue, with as many people with the same problem, and great advice, as I have found here.

Depressed but ever Hopeful!    Hang in there guys!