Young-ish guy (33) -- Just been diagnosed :(

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silverman

Hi all, I'll get right to it---

I first noticed something was wrong 2 months ago while taking a shower. For me, the bend in my penis was not gradual- the physical symptoms seemed to manifest out of no-where. After a visit to a specialist, I received the diagnosis that I am in the early stages of Peyronies. I am not sure what caused it, (I certainly never noticed any kind of injury) but I guess it doesn't matter.

I am having a tough time with adjusting to the reality that this is something that is not going to go away very easily. I felt like my life was on a roll before this happened. I just finished graduate school, and I have been working real hard to improve myself in every area and having lots of sucess. It is hard for me to deal with the helplessness that i feel with this disease.

I am currently in a relationship that I am not super happy in. My GF is a fantastic person and a wonderful friend, but after 4 years I have to face the fact that I am not in love with her and probably never was. Before the diagnosis, I had planned to break up with her in the most gentle way possible. After receiving my diagnosis I am afraid to.

My girlfriend is understanding and loyal and I know that that this condition is not a deal breaker for her. I am afraid to sacrifice what I have and reenter the relationship marketplace with this horrible handicap. How the hell am I going to explain this to potential partners? Am I going to have to deal with this for the rest of my life?

I feel like all of the confidence that I have worked so hard to build is now shot over something that I have no control over. Quite frankly, I feel stuck and depressed. I keep telling myself that there are people that have to deal with cancer and other life-threatening diseases and that I am lucky by comparison-- but I still can't stop feeling sorry for myself and being pessimistic about my outlook.

I would love to hear from people who have had success with treatment, to hear that there is hope that I can get this sorted out, or just a a pep talk and words of encouragement. Please help.

NeoV

Hey man welcome. I'll be 30 this year and I'm WELL aware of how the disease can force you into relationships based on weakness or acceptance seeking.

Sorry to anyone if this sounds crude, but you can sleep with girls around age 20 or so even at age 60, yes, 60! You have an entire life ahead of you of whatever you want, or if you just want a monogamous relationship, you can get that too. I have said it so many times now, and some how people don't believe me, that I have used my Peyronie's as an opener or "pick up line" and had it work numerous times. I literally would walk up to the hottest girl in the bar or club and say "I can't have sex because my dick hurts and I have rare genetic disease." Or I would tell girls about it in a light hearted way, and actually show them where it bends. Talking about problems, even sexual, takes a huge burden off the girl and shows your vulnerability. Once you get vulnerability, it's easy to go straight for attraction.

It's not a death sentence to your sex life. It is pretty terrible, but you can straighten things out and keep being sexually active.

In my case, traction by hand for years smoothed out my curve and basically rid me of my symptoms. For other guys, surgery got them back to where they wanted to be, or just VED therapy. 33 is certainly young and you have time on your side. I highly recommend you start traction (while flaccid always), and look into supplements, heat therapy, and VED therapy. See a specialist if you can, but get on those treatments as soon as possible, and after researching them.

LWillisjr

Silverman,
This is a duplicate post, same as your "Introduce yourself" section. No need to duplicate post here.
Developed peyronies 2007 - 70 degree dorsal curve
Traction/MEDs/Injections/Surgery 2008 16 years Peyronies free now
My History

Hontas

Quote from: NeoV on August 12, 2016, 09:43:22 PM
I have said it so many times now, and some how people don't believe me, that I have used my Peyronie's as an opener or "pick up line" and had it work numerous times. I literally would walk up to the hottest girl in the bar or club and say "I can't have sex because my dick hurts and I have rare genetic disease."
Dude Japanese women are weird  ;D Btw love your content man, I read the part where you wrote about approval seeking etc.  

TonySa

Dude, it's not just Japanese woman who are attracted to a man who can be vulnerable and relate to them at a honest human level. 😎
PxD 2 yrs 9/16.  Failed all treatment. 9/11/18: excision, grafting & implant Dr Karpman MtnView Ca, AMS CX 18cm + 3-1cm RTEs.
Pump failed.  2/11/20 Dr Karpman installed Titan 22cm +1cm RTE.

lessor

to be with a woman without F^@$!ng I prefer to be alone

Hontas

Quote from: lessor on December 21, 2017, 10:26:42 PM
to be with a woman without f'^+'ing I prefer to be alone
I understand you may love your girlfriend etc. but the people who say these kind of stuff still amaze me. Like get teased and have no sex after all that? F~@< no. It will just get you more pissed.