Bringing up your peyronies with a potential sexual partner

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Perspex

Hey

I haven't been with a woman since my condition appeared.

I am aware of the massive turn off that insecurity can be. I am trying to be comfortable and realistic about my condition. I'm trying to figure out how I would like to deal with the inevitable situation where I get intimate with a woman and my issue will be shared. I have a feeling that I would have to bring it up before it is seen, so it is not a surprise. I'm also thinking I don't want to make such a huge deal about it. I am also thinking that I want to be really careful with my penis... so not to make it worse. At the same time I would like not to too adversely effect the intimacy and focus of the act. IT's got to be a mood killer.

I'm trying to find a way of avoiding the feeling of embarasement... because this is not something to be embarased by. It is what it is. Just the way it is.

How have you guys dealt with this situation? Do you have any suggestions?

I do feel like I will probably only get intimate with a woman who I feel I can trust enough to accept me and respect my issue and me. I am attracted to many women. I am not promiscuous though, and have always needed to feel comfortable and confident with a person before making love with them. This condition has drastically amplified this.

popopo

Personally, I gave up. This isn't something to be embarassed about because I can't help it, but I still feel that way. I try to focus on things like working out and making money. I might be unhealthy but I decided not to deal with women. I kinda hate women and sex now and I dont wanna play the love game unless I can win it. Call me a psycho but I also get turned off by seein how NOT filled a female is by my dick. It's humiliating. I'm probably too proud, but if you're like me the only thing that helps (but you WILL feel like crap anyway and that's fine) to focus on the future and all the other things you want to achieve in life. Once you'll be healed you have a base of good qualities and you'll be able to make up for lost time. How old are you if I may ask??
Age: 25
Date of onset: 17
Symptoms: sharp pains, numbness, change in shape/size, hourglassing and discolaration from jelqing/VED usage as a teen. Diagnosed with a venous leak and possible scarring.
Treatments tried: cialis, pentox and VED didnt help

LWillisjr


First of all you have to realize that you are the one feeling embarrassed. Your idea of "bringing it up" already implies that you feel the need to apologize for the way your penis is.

Look, we are all who we are. Penis' of all sizes and shapes. Some naturally curve up, down, left, or right. You feel bad because you were once one way and now you have a curve. I remember in one of your posts you said you now curve left but you didn't indicate how much.

You want someone who will accept you for who you are. Don't feel obligated to explain or excuse yourself for any reason.

If and when the topic comes up, or she asks about it, you can explain what you are dealing with.
Developed peyronies 2007 - 70 degree dorsal curve
Traction/MEDs/Injections/Surgery 2008 16 years Peyronies free now
My History

Perspex

popopo - 34. I don't feel that distaste for women like you do. I am trying to focus on other important things in life though and not get too carried away by the issue we have. That is important

LWillisjr - I agree with what you are saying. I am aware that it is my embarrassment... and I am assuming I know what others might think. And what I am assuming they are thinking is an unfair judgement of them.

Besides lets imagine it is funny to see or strange, maybe I could laugh about it anyway.. if I can take it less seriously.. that's difficult though

I'm trying to navigate my new massive insecurity. I'm realising how much importance I have put on my sexual performance and attractiveness in relationships... which highlights an underlying insecurity that I don't value myself enough outside my sexuality.

I am reluctant to say how big the curve is because I know many people on here have it much much worse than I do. You are right that it is just a comparative for me. This was not an issue and now it suddenly is. The worst thing is that it seems t be progressing , so I am worried about the future. I'm still fine tuning my protractor measurements, but it's about 20 degrees off straight to the left. This may seem like nothing to people who have it worse. But I guess you all started with a small change and many went on to a much worse scenario.

As I say, I think its progressing. About 5 degrees in about a month... so I am afraid of what is to come.