Difficulty in relationship because of pain

[Thisismyusername]

I'm sorry, I've deleted the original post for privacy reasons.  I'm going through a really tough time right now.  

[james1947]

Thisismyusername

I read carefully your post and I think I understand you and I understand your girlfriend.
It hurts me to read how much this disease is devastating your life as devastating many others on this forum.
Did you taught about counselling? It helped me when I was much younger.
When you have been to a Peyronies specialist last time?
Are you taking some medications for the pain?
To be under pain for so long time is devastating, I know, maybe you should see a pain specialist also.

James  

[NeoV]

Very difficult stuff,

I also have to express my feelings, though you may want to be careful trying to dig any kind of finality or conclusions from her. I highly recommend the book "The Way of the Superior Man" by David Deida, or at least listening to the 5 hour CD recap. It's a bit old so expect some "woowoo" over-conceptualization, but discard what is not necessary to the ideas. The book is often recommended by RSD instructors.

To maintain sexual attraction, as the theory goes, one cannot impose on the other to form hard-set values. Men relate to fellow men by discussing philosophy and making clear points and resolutions. This does not work in a sexual relationship, (in many cases).

At a certain point I believe, and the book would also agree, that your lover simply cannot be your best friend, but has to be something else, basically your own mirror by which to practice your own independence. I finally had an ah-ha moment, when I realized that there was no point in relating to my sexual partner. That in fact, I would not even WANT to do so, since it would kill the sexual attraction. That is reserved for my guy friends, a lover is something else.

It's an extreme view perhaps, but not one that isn't shared by a large amount of men. I made the mistake of being too idealistic towards women, thinking I could basically have my mom/best friend/sex partner all in one person. That turned out to be a contradiction, after years of it failing I finally get it.

Do not force her to open up. She is your mirror, stay romantic, stay committed to your Peyronie's. Do not seek her approval. Many will disagree with this one, at least consider it.