Finally get around to sex and can't perform

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morphine

Before I start, my peyronies may be a little different than most. About 2 years ago I made the worst mistake of my life. I had gotten one of those cheap knockoff chastity cages off of amazon and slept with it on overnight. Woke up in terrible pain, a lot of blood was trapped in my fully erect dick, so I pulled the "tube" part of the cage off even though that pulled all of the blood further down my dick and probably f'~c<+d up those blood vessels/veins/arteries. Didn't even think I needed to see a doctor until a week later. I was 23.

I've only had sex once, and it was a month or two after the above injury, so I guess it was still in the "worsening" phase or whatever. I had worked a 12 hour shift, went on a date with a new girl unexpectedly, and ended up having sex. I had some trouble staying hard, but chalked it up to a)peyronies b_)physical exhaustion. I wasn't too concerned.

Now, I take pentox 400mg once a day, along with 500mg arginine. I am prescribed cialis in case I need it, but don't take it because I don't have sex. I jerk off, but have been cutting down on porn consumption. Watched it once or twice in the past two weeks. I typically jerk off with no lube, sometimes too rough, but rarely. I typically don't have trouble getting or keeping an erection during that, but what's hard enough to jerk off with may not quite be hard enough to have sex with. I bought a fleshlight at one point, use it sometimes and can generally get hard enough for it, but using lube.

Last night I finally am about to have sex for the first time in nearly 2 years. I took 5mg cialis with no tolerance and an arginine pill. So we had been hanging out for a few hours and I had gotten kind of hard a couple times. Finally, at the end of the night, we go to have sex. I can't make it hard enough for penetration. She tries to blow me, still can't get it hard enough for penetration. I say "Well morning wood might be better". This morning, still can't get it hard enough to penetrate. I feel like such crap, even her blowjob can't get me off. I know it sucks for guys who are like 55, but it's kind of expected at that age a little. I'm 25. This is F^@$!ng humiliating. She's kind of baffled after trying to blow me and says "Sorry, I don't know what to do... I've never run into this problem before." I really don't think she realized how much more that hurt. I don't have much choice, so I explain what happened, though I swap out "chastity cage accident" with "cock ring accident" and though "I find [her] very attractive, this thing has given me problems with my dick". Also, I'm not used to having sex with another person, where there is pressure to perform and an entirely separate person to try to consider in the equation. She seemed understanding and said she sometimes had trouble getting off and was glad we could talk about it. I offered to use my  hands or mouth to try, but she got herself off with me helping.

I don't know what to chalk this failure up to. I'm thinking and desperately hoping that it's the "other person being present" that's throwing me off and that I can get used to that (and thus get hard enough to penetrate). But I'm worried too. Maybe it has been this bad this whole time and I just didn't know because I wasn't having sex. I knew my peyronies may affect the quality of the physical intercourse itself, but never thought it would just prevent me from getting hard altogether. I thought surely with cialis I'd be fine, but I just wasn't. I don't know how to fix this.

jj21

It seems like a mix of performance anxiety and low-dose cialis. Those 5mg tabs are meant for daily use and take about a week for full-effect. If you want to use it "as needed" the regular dosage is 10 to 20mg which takes about 1-2 hours to kick in and should last about 24 hours.

Alternatively you can try viagra which will kick in in 20 mins and will last 4-5 hours.

I found Viagra to be much stronger than cialis but Cialis to be more convenient as it lasts longer so you don't have to time when you have sex.

Hope this helps.  
34 Years Old...Peyronies for 4 years. 20 Degree left and upwards curvature, major dents and narrowing, ED.

Implant + Tunica Expansion Procedure, 7th Feb 2023, Titan 22cm +1cm RTE, Partial revision 27th June 23 (fix pump, remove 10ml reservoir).

Hawk

As JJ stated, low dose Cialis is not for taking prior to sex.  They are for taking daily so you are ready any time.  Because of their half-life, it builds up and you must take it at least a few consecutive days to get to full levels.

The Cialis is generally also intended to be taken daily with Pentox and arginine even if you never have sex.  This mix, often called a PAV cocktail, for Pentox, Arginine, Viagra) that many Peyronies specialist use to combat plaque.

I would take the Cialis daily as intended.  Stop porn,  and stop or greatly reduce masturbation.  If I did masturbate, it would be with simulated intercourse, such as a stationary fleshlight and lube.
Prostatectomy 2004, radiation 2009, currently 70 yrs old
After pills, injections, VED - Dr Eid, Titan 22cm implant 8/7/18
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