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Veive

I am 67 years old and developed Peyronies about 3 years ago. I self-diagnosed via the web and kept it to myself for most of a year. My wife and I were only having sex every 3 or 4 months so I thought I could ride it out – there was not much curvature at that stage and erections were still firm (although very painful). In the end I had to tell my wife because sex hurt too much.  We discussed it and decided I should see a doctor, find out more and have the diagnosis confirmed. I went to see my General Practitioner who diagnosed Peyronies and referred me to a Urologist. I broke that appointment with the specialist at the last minute – the more I read, the more it seemed that there was not much chance of a successful treatment, and that the more likely options had unaffordable price tags attached. There was also the thought that maybe my wife and I had just about finished with sex, so why bother? I soon discovered that it is one thing to rationalise doing nothing on the basis that sex was over, but quite another to live that story day after day, month after month.  

The painful erections phase finished and I thought I had gotten off lightly. However, almost overnight I acquired a 60 degree bend, accompanied by a frightening amount of shrinkage ........I still can't quite believe how quickly that change came about. So...... I went back to the doctor, got a new referral to the specialist and hit the Peyronies forums again. I found the section with partner's stories – wonderful! I told my wife about it, hopeful that it might trigger discussion about alternative forms of intimacy......but nothing came of it. Other than that little glimmer, I didn't find much hope in the forums. The most likely treatment seemed to be the injections, but when I discussed these with my wife, neither of us could justify the thousands of dollars involved. All the treatments came to feel like they were only relevant to younger men who could justify all the expense and palaver because they still had their lives in front of them. I swayed one way then the other right up to the day of the specialist appointment but cancelled again.

Three years on, I am feeling completely isolated in this. I have no friends I can discuss it with and the barrier it has placed down the middle of our bed is feeling insurmountable.  Even though sex had become quite intermittent before Peyronies Disease, it still felt like there was some sort of rhythm that lay below our physical intimacy. That has evaporated altogether now. I am still so drawn to her, can't help touching her shoulder or her hand when we are together. This touch seems to be fine with her, as it always was, but she doesn't respond at all anymore.  We are still very close, but I am having a really hard time coming to terms with physical intimacy no longer being part of our relationship.

I am now thinking about going to the doctor again, but can't help feeling that such a course of action might be like a drowning man grasping at straws – that it is already too late and that even if I found an affordable treatment that was successful, the new sexless status quo is already too well established to turn around.
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Jscout

If you're missing the intimacy with your Wife, I would take the time to see the Specialist. Do you have medical insurance? I realize the deductible alone can be a large price tag! I would assume w medical insurance, that the Specialists visit would be covered (minus Co-Pay)? Perhaps you would have some luck with Cialis, or maybe you'll be one of the seemingly lucky few to get a well educated and compassionate Doctor that kind find a treatment within your budget and goals. I don't think it's time to give up yet.
I wish you the best of luck, pls keep us posted
~Diagnosed Nov 2018, right before my 40th B-day
~Frustrated loving Wife
~Pain w erections
~NO medical progress
~Was naturally curved up like 🍌, straight at initial diagnosis, now curved right & twisted 😢
~Denial/Depressed cycle 😭
~Mass growing!!

Bubba dawg

You don't have access to any kind of Insurance or grants? Get a loan if you have to. I don't see why you would live with a disease for 6 months much less 3 years. We men just can't live without our dicks functioning. Doesn't matter if you are 20 or 80. Active sex life or not so much. Mentally debilitating. You can have prostrate problems if you can't keep it drained. Then there is the relationship problems. The wife doesn't want you touching her if you can't finish the job. She may deep down resent you for not getting help.
You may have not get back to perfection with Xiaflex injections , but you could have got to where you could have sex . Painful yes. No dick, much more painful. Then there is the more expensive surgery option. You know all this. This has been more about you than your wife. About you living without a functioning dick. Your wife could die and there you would be, single . Perhaps meeting hornier women.
This is a good reason that everyone should have a good health insurance policy
5 Rounds of Xiaflex. Good results.

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